I was a bully magnet (and it's my fault)
For years, I attracted bullies, toxic partners, and situations where I felt taken advantage of. Not because I was unlucky, but because I had no conviction about my own self worth.
I was so afraid of conflict, so desperate to be liked, that I had no boundaries. People could sense the lack of inner security in me.
I worked harder than anyone but earned less. I gave more but my effort was not recognized. I was always overgiving in supporting other people's needs and neglecting my own.
I threw away my "perfect" life at 34
At 34, even after "checking all the boxes" society told me would make me happy (a 6-figure career and a luxury condo), I felt more lost than ever. A surprise breakup shattered my carefully constructed life, and for the first time, I had to face the woman I had become.
I made a radical choice: I quit everything. Spent eight months in what I call "mini retirement", traveling, studying mindfulness, going inward to rediscover what kind of human I wanted to become.
What followed challenged everything I'd told myself about what's "possible" for me:
Without a formal marketing degree, I was hired by two industry-leading education empires, helping launch courses to 1.5 million students and contributing to multi-million dollar revenues.
And reincarnated at 40
At 40, I did something most people called crazy. I sold everything and moved to Bali, immersing myself in a community of location-free entrepreneurs. I built my one-person business from scratch, going from feeling "not qualified enough" to making $15k in my second month online.
Today, I'm living my definition of well-resourced life. Not because I make "6-figure monthly" income, but because I genuinely feel good enough, have inner peace, and doing work I love through an unconventional career I designed entirely for myself.
All because I refused to follow the script most women are expected to follow: get a degree (with crushing student loans), marry a rich guy for security (spoiler: no one could give you security except yourself), have children (even when you can barely raise yourself), and lose yourself completely in the process.
Instead, I chose to raise myself first, and design a life worth living.
